It was never good to insult children from anything that could possibly have any danger attached yet parents keeping their children under permanent watch has become “what people do.”
People harmed children without them knowing it out of our fear-based culture. Children need to confront danger; they need to explore; they need adventures at some point in their life.
There was a time when parents knew how important to embrace adventure and danger at some time when let their kids go off into the woods by themselves, with rifles. And thinking about it now, if that was really so horribly dangerous, half of us wouldn’t be here.
You bet alright, it is scary to watch your children walk into a subway station or out into the woods. But you have to do it. Let them go out and face the world, it is healthy for them but remember to calculate the risks, pick your times, pick your spots, watch them from a distance if you must.
Fear is just an impulse; along with it can be based on lies, distortions, or even on nothing at all. It’s an absurd thing on which to base your children’s lives.
A new German study shows clearly that adventure shapes the individual. As one of the researchers concluded, “Living our lives makes us who we are.” Your children need to live, and not merely exist inside of a fear-inspired bubble. The study also indicates that exploration and adventure not only affect personality development, but also brain growth.
The real dangers for your children lie in government schools, and even in private schools that function on the same model.
People are pushed, economically, to put their children into public schools. Make sure that you tell your children how the system is set up to condition them. Educate them that understanding is far more important than memorizing. Back them up if the teachers give them grief.
Your children should know, very clearly, that teachers and principals are just average people doing particular jobs. Some of them are good people, others are bad people, and a title is just a title – it means nothing more.
Educate your children to be brave, let them learn how to fall and rise again. but remember you want to let them encounter dangers slowly, and you’d never put them in positions to get truly hurt, but you should be nothing like the über-parents who surveil their children’s every move, in terror that poor little Johnny will encounter something that hasn’t been sanitized for his protection.